Loving what is- Katie Byron

We are disturbed , not about the things that happens, but about our thoughts about what happened.

Suffering is optional. Specific thought is causing our problem. Suffering is natural alarm, warning us that we are attaching to thought.

4 questions:

1. Is that true?

2. Can you absolutely know that, that's true? (everything is the judgement- reality: you come to Earth and people judge, that's reality).

3. How do you react, when you think that thought?

4. Who would you be without this thought?

The turn around- turn it around (use you).

Example: I am sad because my parents judge me.- turn around: I am sad by me, because I think my parents judge me.

Notice, when your thoughts argue with reality (what is). 

Example: Lol - you can try to learn a cat to bark, but she will still say mjav.

Everything should have happened, because it did. How can it be helpful to argue with how it is?

Staying in your own bussiness:

Three kinds of business:

- mine

- yours (mentally being in your bussiness is to be out of my bussiness- when I know what is more right for you, I am away from what is right for me).If I am living mentally your life, then I can't be living my own! Example: You should have a job.

- God's (everything that is out of my control is God's bussiness- if I worry about flood...).

Believing that the thought is true- is attaching to a thought.  

Looking for the thought behind the suffering: 

Behind every (every negative feeling) suffering, there is a untrue thought behind it.

Negative, stressful feelings are quiet alarms of untrue thoughts.